Have you ever noticed that very often people will become obsessed with a hobby or activity almost as soon as they pick it up?

I can't help but notice that when a person first starts building muscles they'll start gripping things really tight such as the steering wheel of their car.  It just feels so stinkin' good to flex that muscle that they just might have to rip the steering wheel right off of there.  You'll see someone who is working their abs constantly rubbing their stomach to feel their toned abs.  I know it feels good getting toned but I can't help but laugh at some of these people.  I'll admit that P90X had me going around squatting more than usual to feel my newly toned legs but I'm not doing it in public. I think I'll accidentally drop my keys in aisle 9 so I can slowly squat down and show these off. 

I've also noticed that a lot of people that do road races seem to think that the clothes they wear to run in are appropriate attire for all their daily activities.  You'll see some of these people at the grocery store on a Sunday night in short shorts, a stop watch, tank top, sports glasses, and a water bottle.  These are usually people who have just ran their first road race and decided that it was time to spend a fortune on all kinds of unnecessary running gear.  "I think I may run 1 mile today, better get all geared up".

I'm not saying that some things aren't necessary and fun.  I'm just saying that I think some people take things a little tooooo far.

Just because I like gardening does not mean I'm going to walk around with a flower printed on every t shirt and a purse shaped like a water pot.

 Just because you have a camoflauge hat and a rifle does not make you a hunter.

Just because you are drinking a gatorade and have athletic clothes on does not mean you are an athlete...or even athletic.

I think you get my drift.

Have you ever went into the kitchen to make a peanut butter and jelly sandwich?  You go in, get out the peanut butter, get out the jelly, go to get the bread and it's not there?  You were having this wonderful craving now what do you do?  You had it all pictured in your head but now you have to think of something else.

Do you really think whoever made the BLT was originally wanting a sandwich that did not involve a beef patty or a piece of chicken?  Still isn't it a great sandwich?

Do you really think that whoever invented the "naked burrito" at Qdoba's was really wanting just the pile of rice with chicken, beans, sour cream, etc. on it with out the tortilla?  Still, it's one of my favorites when I go there.

Do you ever feel something is missing in your life?  You pictured the cute little house, awesome spouse, cute little kids, the picket fence, etc.  That may not be what you have though.  Are you discontent because that's what you pictured?  Maybe, that's just what the world told you was the perfect plan.  Maybe if you didn't listen to what everyone else's idea of a perfect life would be you could look around and realize you've got the perfect dish.  It may be missing the patty, or the tortilla shell but WOW...it's even better than you expected!

You complain to him that he doesn't do the sweet things that your friends husband does...(you make him feel incompetent).

You complain that all he ever wants to do is have sex and you push him away...(you make him feel unwanted/unloved)...

You then complain that he never acts interested in you as you answer the door with your hair in a wad, sweat pants, and frown on your face. (He doesn't think you want him anyways after being rejected a dozen times and you obviously aren't trying too hard yourself).

You cry to your friends because he had an affair. 

I'm not saying cheating is right.  I don't think it is.  I am saying it can, in many cases (not all), be avoided. 

In most failed relationships two people are in the wrong.  So instead of pointing fingers it's time to look at how you can improve your relationship yourself.

According to most experts when cheating happens in a relationship it usually happens at a time when both people in the relationship were unhappy.  So if you're unhappy you should self check to make sure you are trying to be the best mate you can be before attacking and making things even worse.